Actions speak louder than words; do you agree with the saying? I tend to, especially if said actions accompany positive words :) To counteract negativity, however, I would have to say, it is better to show that you are better than stooping down to their level by not parroting their speech and much less, their appalling acts.
For example, when your beloved says that they love you, wouldn't it be much nicer if they also give you a beautiful bouquet of flowers or something from Tiffany's? The latter you can of course reserve for special occassions :P
Anyway, this is off that topic now but I have noticed that many Muslim ladies, especially covered ones, i.e. hijabis, speak with such shocking language, especially on Facebook. Wtf, bs, stfu, some do not even bother with the acronyms and just spell each word out :S As Muslims, we are supposed to watch what we say, do, etc. because they reflect our characters, our fellow Muslims' characters and community as well. However, being hijabis, that responsibility, I believe, amplifies since our hijabs is a direct representation of our religion. I don't know if these ladies think they are gangsta or just being a 'normal' person. 'Hey, I might be Muslim but I can curse better than you American biatches,' maybe that is what they think. I don't know why I said American. I am trying to keep this as general as possible and so just typed whatever country came to mind.
Anyway, I, and I say this with shame, used to think I was so gangsta and swore like a sailor. I was thirteen, and angry haha. Ask my friends from junior high. I was the nerdy kid with thick glasses in full white school uniform. Not a pretty picture I might add, oh yes, that is me in the picture *dies*
For example, when your beloved says that they love you, wouldn't it be much nicer if they also give you a beautiful bouquet of flowers or something from Tiffany's? The latter you can of course reserve for special occassions :P
Anyway, this is off that topic now but I have noticed that many Muslim ladies, especially covered ones, i.e. hijabis, speak with such shocking language, especially on Facebook. Wtf, bs, stfu, some do not even bother with the acronyms and just spell each word out :S As Muslims, we are supposed to watch what we say, do, etc. because they reflect our characters, our fellow Muslims' characters and community as well. However, being hijabis, that responsibility, I believe, amplifies since our hijabs is a direct representation of our religion. I don't know if these ladies think they are gangsta or just being a 'normal' person. 'Hey, I might be Muslim but I can curse better than you American biatches,' maybe that is what they think. I don't know why I said American. I am trying to keep this as general as possible and so just typed whatever country came to mind.
Anyway, I, and I say this with shame, used to think I was so gangsta and swore like a sailor. I was thirteen, and angry haha. Ask my friends from junior high. I was the nerdy kid with thick glasses in full white school uniform. Not a pretty picture I might add, oh yes, that is me in the picture *dies*
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Oh here I am off track again. Like I said, I thought it was so cool to be angry and spitting out angry, disgusting words. I stubbed my toe, I said 'F*** you stone!!!', and kicked the little rock more and stubbed my other toe; I nearly got hit by a car, I said 'F*** you, you blind f*****r???!!!!', along with the obligatory middle finger salute. Bad hey? Tell me about it.
Overtime, I realise, that it is a nasty habit that needed curbing. And so, I allowed myself to at least say s**t or c**p until I culled the habit completely. I am proud to say that I am now ninety-nine percent sober. Because sometimes when I am extremely mad (mad is the key word), my naughty mouth just felt like saying 'F*** it!!!! (Bill O'Reilly style (warning: video is NSFW due to cursing))'. Felt good at the time but then I would feel guilty and the Big Kahuna would get upset with me and therefore nobody is happy. So yes, now I try hard to take a breath before I say anything when I get upset. That way, I will have time to think before I blurt anything out.
Overtime, I realise, that it is a nasty habit that needed curbing. And so, I allowed myself to at least say s**t or c**p until I culled the habit completely. I am proud to say that I am now ninety-nine percent sober. Because sometimes when I am extremely mad (mad is the key word), my naughty mouth just felt like saying 'F*** it!!!! (Bill O'Reilly style (warning: video is NSFW due to cursing))'. Felt good at the time but then I would feel guilty and the Big Kahuna would get upset with me and therefore nobody is happy. So yes, now I try hard to take a breath before I say anything when I get upset. That way, I will have time to think before I blurt anything out.
Bill O'Reilly Flips Out; warning: video is NSFW due to cursing
So lovely ladies (and guys too), why resort to cursing and swearing in this civilised society when there are so many wonderful, less offensive words to choose from. If someone annoys you, instead of saying 'you are such a b***h', why not say 'you know (insert name), I think I choose not to put up with your nonsensical behaviour,' and walk away. When someone will not stop 'advising' (i.e. telling you what to do) you, instead of saying 'why don't you stfu?? You don't know me so don't be telling me what to do!', say 'My dear (insert name), it is better for you to worry about your household before burdening yourself with mine as well', smile that smile that never reaches the eyes and walk away. Classy.
Okay, I think I have rambled enough, so I will leave you with this point to ponder:
In Ramadan, swearing does not invalidate one's fast, but it does detract from his reward. One should control himself and guard his tongue against swearing, reviling, backbiting, gossiping and other things that Allah has forbidden whether one is fasting or not. But when one is fasting it is more serious and he should be more careful in preserving the integrity of his fast, and avoid that which will harm people or be a cause of trouble, anger and division, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If one of you is fasting, let him not utter obscenities on that day or raise his voice, and if anyone reviles him or wants to pick a fight with him, let him say ‘I am a person who is fasting.’”
Revised from Islam Q&A http://www.islam-qa.com
May our ibadah and fast in the month of Ramadan be accepted and rewarded inshallah. Ta ra~
Okay, I think I have rambled enough, so I will leave you with this point to ponder:
In Ramadan, swearing does not invalidate one's fast, but it does detract from his reward. One should control himself and guard his tongue against swearing, reviling, backbiting, gossiping and other things that Allah has forbidden whether one is fasting or not. But when one is fasting it is more serious and he should be more careful in preserving the integrity of his fast, and avoid that which will harm people or be a cause of trouble, anger and division, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If one of you is fasting, let him not utter obscenities on that day or raise his voice, and if anyone reviles him or wants to pick a fight with him, let him say ‘I am a person who is fasting.’”
Revised from Islam Q&A http://www.islam-qa.com
May our ibadah and fast in the month of Ramadan be accepted and rewarded inshallah. Ta ra~
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